- I am responsible for where I am and where I will be!

The future is always subjective
Some years ago I wrote a reflection letter on positive and negative self-fulfilling prophecies. It is time again. We need to remind ourselves of how we create our private and professional life through our positive and negative self-fulfilling prophecies including projecting our own disowned selves onto others. (Our disowned selves are that part of ourselves that we do not wish to recognize.)

 

We can change our private and professional life if we want to. The future is always subjective and that is why it can be changed. We can create new and more rewarding private and professional self-fulfilling prophecies. It is possible, however, it is not neccessarily easy. We are being influenced by our past, our present and our beliefs about the future. Our self-fulfilling prophecies are deeply rooted within us, so where do we start if we want to change?

 

Where have my self-fulfilling prophecies taken me up to now?
If the future is always subjective it goes without saying that each one of us have to answer this question and reflect upon whether we want to change or not. If we want to change we can start an individual private and/or professional change process that can take us to the next step in life and at work.

We have to take into account, though, that my country, culture, religion, parents, school teachers, colleagues and more have led to my positive and negative self-fulfilling prophecies of today. It will most likely help us to understand why we are where we are before we take actions for change.

 

To create or be open to an antithesis in our private and/or professional life
If we want to change we need to bring to the surface a provocation to the way things are in our world. This antithesis will challenge our thesis (the way we think our world is) or our self-fulfilling prophesy. What is then my antithesis if I really want to change and develop? Once we have found our antithesis to challenge our thesis, we will work toward a synthesis of these competing ideas. We need to repeat it 100 times every day as the thesis or self-fulfilling prophecies are so deeply rooted within ourselves.

 

Take a few minutes for reflection.

These have been and are my positive and negative self- fulfilling prophecies:

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Where have they taken me?

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What would I like to change? What new antithesis and thereby synthesis would I like to see in my life? What are my new self-fulfilling prophecies?

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I know it will be easy for us to integrate our new self-fulfilling prophecies in our private and professional life. (If we said something else it would become a negative self-fulfilling prophesy.)

 

Finally a question to you who have just read this Reflection letter: ”What positive or negative self-fulfilling prophesy steered your reading and reflections?”

 

Recommendation of the month
I recomend you to watch this video again and again.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7AWnfFRc7g

 

Best regards 


Hans  



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Your letter reminded me a saying by Mahatma Gandhi "You must be the change you want to see in the world". Thank you Hans for your reflection letter..keep writing more!!
- Jude
Your letter has inspired me to re think my self-fulfilling prophecies into a positive way, which will help me to achieve the goals in my life
- Anu Francis
'To change' our private or professional life is kinda of a fear factor for most of us. But then there is the challenge right in fron of us to take a right & sensible decision, to say Yes or No to change. Thanks for the valuable points Hans.
- Ebi
Self-fulfilling prophecies is quite a vast subject which you have potrayed in a simple &beautiful way. Keep writing
- Marcus
'I am resposible for where I am and where I will be' is an undeniable truth, your letter is very inspiring, thank you!
- Emi Elizabeth
Det är när man vistas i olika kulturer som det blir tydligt vilka profetior vi guidas av. Det kan vara i kontakten med folk från andra länder, men också inom ett och samma företag. Kanske är det tydligast när vi träffar människor från andra länder. Tex. så kan ju vi nordbor bli lite obekväma i sällskap med en amerikan som gärna framhäver sina kvaliteter och prestationer, medan en amerikan har svårt att förstå varför vi är så försiktiga och inte gärna tar för oss.
- Hälsningar Jarl P.
It is easy to change when we are committed to it, i.e. when we in our hearts are convinced that we want to change. The hard part is getting there. What I want to do is not always accompanied with the motivation (and the action). How I get motivated is a totally different story.
- Regards Bengt Surmen
We really need to be reminded of our self-fulfilling prophecies now and then. Thank you! Siv M. S. Karlsson
- Siv M. S. Karlsson